Little Big Girl

I just saw this picture over at Two Ellie who found it at August Love.  At first, it made me seriously giggle and then I stopped and had a good look and it made me think.  I used to not really care for photos styled in this fashion.  Dressing little kids up in an adult look.   But now I’m actually quite fond of these styles because I find the photos to be really telling.  What it tells depends upon the viewer, of course.  It might tell you something entirely different than it tells me.
I see myself in this picture.  A little girl looking quite sophisticated.  She’s not really trying to play dress up.  She is dressing herself in what she thinks she ought to wear.  What’s acceptable these days.  What she thinks is stylish…her own interpretation.  What she feels will give her her own personality and what portrays her current mood.  Take away the stylish shades, the ruffles, the layers of statement jewelry and the lady hat and what have you got?  A little girl in sandals at the beach.
Don’t you ever just feel like that?  That underneath the highlights, the designer jeans, newest bag, shiniest lip gloss, and even the toddler on your hip that you are just a little girl?  And if you strip yourself from all of the things you have and all of the things you “do” you are still the same you.  The you, you once were at age 6.
I’m about to turn 32 and I still haven’t quite figured myself out yet (although society says we should be confident, comfortable in our own skin and be our true selves in our 30’s… I’m thinking this happens more at 35 and beyond, at least that’s what I’m hoping for).  I’m still figuring things out.  I’m still wondering how I got from here to there and exactly where I’m going next.
It’s good to look back at being 6.  Do you remember?  You thought you could do anything.  Be anything. Anything you wanted to be, of course (for me it was an actress and business person).  The world was full of possibilities.  And you were to discover them all… at least all of the ones you wanted to.  No obstacles that you didn’t have a solution for and no fear of it not happening.
Here I am with my 3rd child on the way and I sometimes wonder how I myself am having children.  Life goes so fast.  But the great thing about being around children is that it reminds you of being of a child.  And all of the magic and  good things that come with it.  Only this time around you can process it, think about it and take away some gorgeous life lessons.
So here I am, a little big girl.  Dressed up in my own way and yet small and innocent underneath it all.  I don’t think this is such a bad thing.  In fact, I think it is a pretty good thing.  Keep the big and obnoxious to your sunglasses and jewelry not your personality (maybe that should be our mantra).
Here is to all the little big girls out there!
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Responses

  • joy
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 4:53pm

    glad you used the pic and loved your thoughts about it. just recently had my 2nd child and i feel the same way you do! happy you shared :)

  • Callie Grayson
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 5:11pm

    well said!
    I am so happy for you and your family with your next baby on the way!!
    xx
    callie

  • Shelly Beson
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 5:22pm

    So well put! I'm 45 and very comfortable in my own skin but do sometimes feel like a young girl. I love when that happens.

    Sincerely, Shelly

  • La Maison Fou
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 6:17pm

    OMG~!!This is my daughter all over again! She is now 16 but boy she was a real performer and dresser! Ohh brings back the good old days before cell phones, facebooks, cars & boys ( other than her dad )
    Leslie

  • kerri
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 6:21pm

    Great sentiment, and wonderful new way of looking at those type of kiddie pics that have often made me gag.

  • SimplyGrove
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 6:42pm

    Very well said:) Love the image!!! xx

  • Beach Vintage
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 8:48pm

    Love this picture, love this post. I agree with everything you have said. I have to remind myself everyday to try and think like when I was a child. It helps me through the day always.

  • meg duerksen
    Commented on June 10th, 2009 at 11:46pm

    so cute.
    well said for sure.
    i was ALWAYS stuffing my moms bras when i was 6….like dolly parton 9 to 5 style…what's that about?
    what does that say about me in my 30's?
    :)

  • lorelailette♚
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 2:54am

    i agree with beach vintage. Children are so innocent but they somehow manage to tell the truth or a put a message across that adults seem to forget.

    im going right off the subject here but anyway i do like that picture!!!

    x
    x
    x

  • Exquisite Accessories
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 4:52am

    Love what you said you sound perfect to me, you can never be to old, I am 42 this year & I still feel like a kid at heart me & my 11year old were doing cartwheels on the beach at the weekend!! lifes to short to get serious. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy but don't cart wheel just yet :) Elaine.

  • Stylestance
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 6:21am

    Very profound and so well said! We should all try to hold on to some of the innocence and wonder of being a little girl. So much happens to us along the way, but our 6-year-old self is really who we are, our personality, which deep down doesn't change. Thank you for this meaningful post.

  • belinda graham
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 6:31am

    sweet. it's quite funny – i was just thinking the other day how when i was that age, i dreamt about how my life would be when i was "older". now that i'm there, it's exactly what i pictured, only better because all that happened in-between is still with me and has shaped me. i love this age, this time of my life. i could freeze it right now and be totally happy, except i'd miss out on so much more! great post. i hope baby is treating you well xx

  • Kellie ~ Ada and Darcy
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 6:38am

    Such a fabulous image, i love the aviators! I love a child's innocence… SOmetimes we lose this as we get older! x

  • Melissa
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 7:19am

    I love the thoughts you have put to the picture and can relate to them so well. Thankyou for your insights.

  • Dreamgirl
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 7:35am

    OHHH… I LOVE YOUR BLOG!
    I have been stuck now for an hour just admiring and dreaming about all the lovely things and places you show. THANK YOU!!!!
    I'm that little girl too…

    Please visit me at http://www.sweeterliving.blogspot.com

    Greetings from Norway!

  • paula
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 8:11am

    what a beautiful and so true post. Just the other day I was driving to church and looked in the rearview mirror, saw my two babies, and then wondered how I got there. Am I really old enough/grown up enough to have babies, be married, and such? It was a good feeling, but just one that sort of caught me off guard in that very moment.

  • Carla
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 8:12am

    Never to old or too young to play dress ups. Carla x

  • Laura
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 10:06am

    beautifully written!

  • Nicole
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 9:57pm

    this is my first visit to your blog (via your facebook post…)
    this is in fact so very lovely… i really like the sentiment and wish i had your way with words!!!

  • Sara
    Commented on June 11th, 2009 at 10:12pm

    Great post! :-) Hope all is well.

  • Sara
    Commented on June 12th, 2009 at 1:11am

    ha fantastic! I've mentioned you over on my blog :)

  • la la Lovely
    Commented on June 12th, 2009 at 9:36am

    Thanks everyone for all of your lovely comments and thoughts on this subject. I love hearing from you all and I wish I could respond personally to every one of you!

    Thanks for visiting, Nicole.

    Meg, you had me totally laughing. I know we would have been friends because I was doing the same thing. Socks worked pretty good for me too – ha!

    Happy weekend all!
    xx

  • count it all joy
    Commented on June 12th, 2009 at 9:41am

    We've got quite a large family and I sometimes look around and think "Hang on a minute – who put me in charge of this circus? How did I get here?" Sometimes though, if you're really lucky, real life actually surpasses the expectations you had as a child. And no matter what your age, lip gloss always helps. Meredith xo.

    p.s such happy, happy news about your la la lovely baby.

  • Julie
    Commented on June 23rd, 2009 at 10:19pm

    that's quite profound. and quite true.

  • Gabrielle
    Commented on July 23rd, 2009 at 1:10pm

    i loved this! thanks!

  • paisly.
    Commented on October 24th, 2009 at 8:09pm

    i came acrossed your blog tonight, and just read this post. I love it. I think this is how we are seen through God's eyes. He doesn't see the extra stuff. He sees who we are underneath it all. We are just a child at his feet..i also cried at this post. love your thoughts…

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