How are you? Are you’re days Merry and Bright? I hope so. I’m sorry for my lack of posts. I haven’t been so merry and bright. My lovely is on empty and so I’ve found not much to say. But today I had this thought. It was a little thought but maybe a big idea? Sometimes being real is one of the most loveliest things of all.
If you are a blogger or a regular reader don’t you sometimes feel like everything in bloggy land is so perfect? Perfect person, perfect house, perfect children, perfect blog and so and so on. I do. And the truth is… there is no such thing. So today, I just thought I would post anyways … although I have nothing even slightly perfect to show or share. Just me.
It’s pretty possible tomorrow will be much more merry and bright. All I can say is 3 kids, being pregnant with #4, the stress of the season, a geriatric dog that is deaf, blind and almost incontinent and a host of other real life things can weigh a person down. Add in hormones and well that is a recipe for unlovely.
If you are feeling a bit unlovely like me. Just know so is someone else and probably someone else and probably someone else. Do you’re best to make it through the day and the beauty of this beautiful mess of life is that each morning is a new day and a fresh start.
I hope that today or maybe tomorrow or the next is very merry and bright for you . .. and me too.
xoxo
ps- and if today is not you’re day…may I recommend some chocolate?
Sherry
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 3:59pm
Love this post. Love these photos. Everything was so true, too. I'm not perfect..neither is my blog.
Amber
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 4:09pm
I am with you honey and am currently munching my way through a Christmas tin of Roses. (chocolates) There is nothing wrong with the odd day off from life, yours is very full and busy. Take it easy and tomorrow is always another day. Best wishes honey. ax
jenna ♥ a little blue
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 4:10pm
chocolate or a walk on the beach definitely help get me out of my funks. and i definitely understand it's not always fun to blog when you're in a slump… but the pics you posted are very magical indeed :)
melifaif
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 4:10pm
Well said my friend. I have to agree completely. You are still ever so lovely though….wishing you well.
Elyse {Pretty. Happy. Busy.}
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 4:52pm
Thank you for your honesty. Some times blog world needs a good dose of real, mixed in with the lovely. Everyone looking so perfect on their blogs was one of the things that made me most nervous about starting my own. When I finally did, I promised myself to work hard on not making it look too perfect. :) Thanks for saying this. I had no idea you were a mother of 3 with one on the way, your blog now amazes me more than ever! THe lovely is still there, it's just not the feature of the day.
Poppy Q
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 5:22pm
I can't even imagine how busy your life is with a house full. Take it easy, put your feet up and do something nice for yourself.
Julie Q
christine {bijouandboheme}
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 7:34pm
I so know what you mean- trying to think and blog and parent and clean and cook and all those things can definitely get the better of me some days- like today, working on my blog for hours, while the kids and I were all sick in bed together drowning in too much TV- had to venture out in the freezing cold to buy pink eye medicine for my little girl and almost died when I caught a glimpse of how I looked in my husbands shirt and jeans that are 8sizes too big in the reflection of my car window as I walked by- and then breathe…..it is sometimes a lot and I often feel anything but we try our best and juggle like only a mother can- thank goodness for woman is all I have to say!!! Thanks for the very lovely post on a day you weren't feeling so lovely-xoxo
PS- how is the mirror treating you?
PSS- how is baby treating you more importantly:)
Belle Inspirations
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 9:16pm
I have just found your blog and am now a happy follower!I also have a new blog so please visit sometime and maybe you can follow me and I'll send inspiration your way! I also have the need to send you a whole lot of love to help you find your lovely again!Thankyou for your honest post it's very refreshing!
Miz.November
Commented on December 7th, 2010 at 10:13pm
Yes. Chocolate and sparkly lights. As a matter of fact, I came home and mixed up a pack of chocolate chocolate chip muffins. I'm with you, girl.
Hugs, Love and a Chocolate muffin.
Hallie
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 12:08am
Oooh don't be blue. I LOVE your blog, and you know the saying less is more. When you do post it is Wonderful! Congrats on #4, wow, that takes a lot. I only have two, lovely daughters but really wanted more and now they are 18 and 20 and it goes so so fast. Nothing is perfect, we only think so. It's a mirage. REal life is messy and wonderful and sad and happy. Your blog gives me so much pleasure and memories of my own girls when they were little. And you do so much. Give yourself a pat on the back and I send you a huge hug.
xo Merry Christmas
Brooke
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 12:09am
thank you. thank our for being real. for not being afraid to share and reach out. thank you for brightening my day, as it's been hard lately. And thank you for reminding me that I am sooooo not alone. Life is hard and that is VERY real. xo
(don't know you, but praying for you now.)
homeiswhatyoumakeit
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 1:50am
Thanks for your post. Just like you said, you are not alone in feeling this way. The holidays are merry & bright, but they also can be overwhelming & gray. Imperfect is perfect.
Hang in there.
I can't imagine being pregnant with a 4th and a geriatric dog, but I was pregnant with my 2nd, and had 3 dogs, including a deaf, blind, incontinent one last year. We lost her this past May and I miss her a lot.
Thanks for being honest and posting even if you aren't feeling lovely.
leanne
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 3:10am
love your honesty – we all feel like this sometimes and as a newish blogger, i can safely say i was overwhelmed with how gorgeous other people's blogs + lives seemed but of course, no one is perfect in the real world!
To me, you seem saintlike – I barely juggle two children, let alone 3 + bump! Try and have 5 minutes hiding somewhere alone with some hot chocolate, always works for me!
Peggy and Fritz
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 5:33am
I love that you put it out there. Let's face it..every day is not lovely and I love authentic bloggers. I for one get caught up in wanting to be perfect and trust me my blog is far from perfect. I have a full time job and so much stress and I can't blog everyday like some folks. I love the photos you posted and I hope today among all the craziness you have a lovely day.
Emmy
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 5:46am
I'm also having a very unlovely day. Hate my job, have no money and moving in two months!
May I reccomend this site, http://mybestthingtoday.com/
it always makes me feel a little better
xxxx
pretty pink tulips
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 8:27am
For sure, we all have those kind of days, weeks or God forbid longer stretches where things feel heavy and dark and not so lovely.
It's ok. Take it easy on yourself.
I'll bet tomorrow feels much merrier and brighter! :)
lonemor
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 9:49am
I totally hear you. I am pregnant with number 3 and definitely feel like some days I have no energy left to do my stuff including blogging so thanks for being honest and know that there are many of us in the same boat out there :)
Carolyn Gill Coaching
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 6:35pm
I really relate to this blog post. And I appreciate your sincerity. I just started blogging, and my #1 goal has been to BE HONEST and to be real. I think there are far more of us out there that can relate to this than something else.
Thank you for your honesty today. #4 child. Oh, My, that's all you needed to say, and there was no need for any other words. But oh how we do love them.
Hang in there.
And God Bless you during this time.
My blog is
http://www.beingcarolyn.com
the lil bee
Commented on December 8th, 2010 at 7:57pm
My completely lovely friend, Karey M, led me here, and I swear it must've been fate. I actually had a wonderful day, but so often I feel this way you're describing, probably because I, too, am pregnant (#2), hormonal, have an aging dog, am uncertain of my future career, and am, well, human. I try to be as honest as possible on my blog, as well. And though sometimes I'll just decide to be happy because I want to put positivity out there as much as possible, it's refreshing to just admit you're having a moment. Thank you for this.
Sending you hugs for a more lovely day tomorrow.
kalanicut
Commented on December 9th, 2010 at 2:07am
BYW friend here and this is a great post. Because you aren't the only one who has crummy days. I had a bit of one today, 3 different ways of sick, tired, stressed, with a stressful weekend ahead. It is comforting to share with others the realization that this too shall pass. :)
Sue H @ Astrachic Studio
Commented on December 9th, 2010 at 5:22pm
Hello,
Well I for one agree that it is
better to be truthful about how
you are feeling. It is a very
hectic time for you at the
moment.
Take some deep breaths, take
baby steps, look for inspiration,
bask in childrens giggles and have
lots of sweet hugs.
By all means eat your chocie and
have it too!
Yesterday I read some advice in
a book (yes it was a crafting
book but it still counts;)
Before you can achieve a day
complete joy you should seek
some joy in everyday.
Remember its the journey in life
not the destination that matters.
Peace and Joy to you,
Sue
Leah
Commented on December 9th, 2010 at 6:41pm
i hear you. sometimes the blogging world can come off as incredibly fake. no one has the perfect life and i appreciate your candor in admitting that some days you just feel down. it's amazing that you find the time to blog at all with so much going on! congrats on #4! hope you are feeling a little more merry and bright today. happiest of holidays to you!
Simply Mel
Commented on December 10th, 2010 at 1:38am
If I lived near ~ I would warm some delicious chocolate with a splash of cream and couple of marshmallows and deliver to you!
Loved this post because life isn't all perfect, but it is the moments that we stop and realize this that make us really appreciate what we do have…
Hope your day has brightened!
mandyface
Commented on December 12th, 2010 at 10:24pm
This post is awesome! Love the pics!
Lea
Commented on December 13th, 2010 at 4:09pm
Lovely post. Chocolate works for me too.
SimplyGrove
Commented on December 13th, 2010 at 6:10pm
Love this post and love your honesty!! Bloggy land can sometimes be a bit fakey bake so posts like this bring a breathe of fresh air. You are amazing, as always!! xxoo
simplygrove.com
belinda graham
Commented on December 15th, 2010 at 6:53am
oh sweets – sorry you're feeling down. no wait – you're just feeling human, so that's a good thing (in a weird way). just think how tiresome life would be if it were like our blogs – constant editing, photoshopping and cropping of the mess and imperfections…. blah! and i have no idea how i missed that you were pregnant again but CONGRATS to you! exciting news!! xxx
Melissa Allam
Commented on December 21st, 2010 at 9:16pm
Totally relate to this one also. Sometimes it wears me out a bit. Not that it is all perfect, but seeing it all can really bring discontent sometimes with who I am and what I have. Hope your bloggy blues have lifted. I could see how 3 kids and one on the way and a geriatric dog can really wear on you. Merry Christmas!
Twinkle
Commented on January 2nd, 2011 at 3:33pm
Although i am reading this nearly a month after you have posted it I am truly glad that i found your blog and read this post. I appreciate your words and perspective on this 'beautiful mess' and am inspired by them as i have been struggling to find perfection in myself. Happy new year, keep your smile on and cheers to Genuine Honesty!
Helen
Commented on January 7th, 2011 at 5:52am
Best blog post I have ever read.