how we spend our minutes + make habits

how-we-spend-our-minutes-_-la-la-lovely hello, again, lovelies.

it’s high time i blogged again.  while i wish the last month was all about resting, relaxing and taking a digital break, it was more like a super busy one where i knew i couldn’t manage it all and something had to give – and that, for me, was blogging.

we road tripped (14 hours w/ 4 kids) to visit family in atlanta and then the mr. lovely and i caught a plane to colorado for a few days.  after returning i had a 2 day photo shoot for original women and, yesterday, a photo shoot (a peek here) with style me pretty living (which i had been working on for the past month – little updates and such).  and, there you have it.  it sounds compact typed out, but all encompassing is more like it.

through all of this, i’ve been thinking about time.  the time in each day.  how we break it up, what we spend it on, and better ways to manage it.  i’ve noticed where i waste and where i want more of it.  i’ve been asking people about their, habits, their hours and their “how do you get it all dones.”

the conclusion i’m coming to is that it’s different for everyone (also, doing it all doesn’t exist).  yes, there are common habits that thread through the lives of all successful people.  they are patterns you have to pick up on.  however, how they implement them may vary. then, there are the the factors to the fractions of our hours and days.  this ignorant saying that dances around the interwebs that says “you have the same amount of hours in a day as beyonce,”  is really just that, ignorant.  yes, beyonce may have the same amount of hours in a day, but she has all the help she could want at her disposal.  but, really who wants to compare at all…because who knows the load that beyonce carries?  maybe she has all the help in the world, but feels emotional lack of some sorts.  you’ll always come up short, when you compare (short on self worth, short on success and even short on hours).

while comparing is a waste of time, observing others is time well spent.   listening and learning from others about their habits is how you fill your hands with tools to try in your hours.

some will work and some will not.  i’m listening, learning and ready to try on a few habits that i’ve never tried, like getting up early to write (getting up early and having a consistent routine, just happens to be one of the common threads amongst successful people – all implemented and lived out in an individual kind of way).  trying on new habits, schedules and patterns, is just that – – trying on.

it takes time to find the right fit.  your, patterns, hours and habits will be unique to you. if your hours are ill fitting, than start with observing.  observe yourself.  observe others.  and. then try on a new way or two. and most importantly, have grace on yourself, and others because schedules and routines vary and are always subject to change.


we have to leave room to let our moments move our minutes and re-arrange our hours when, necessary.  it’s practices, that are precious to keep (although sometimes practiced at different times or in different ways during different seasons).

i’d love to know :

+ have you implemented any new practices, rituals or habits that are working for you?
+ any new habits that you’d like to try?
+ who have you been observing, influenced or inspired by?

i’ll try to share more on some practices and habits, as i’m trying on new ones.

moments are the matter that make up our days – a poem and 12 quiet rituals of successful people.

image / la claes



  • Shell
    Commented on July 28th, 2014 at 4:52pm

    What a fabulous subject to reflect on. Food for thought definitely. Being aware and mindful of what i am doing is a habit I am trying to work on. When I notice too many tabs open on my Computer during the day I step back, breather and close some of them. It helps me concentrate better and keeps my multi tasking habit at bay.
    Shell – A Darlings Nest

  • Trina
    Commented on July 29th, 2014 at 7:45am

    omg… should i admit that i have 9 tabs open right now? i have serious tab / multi- tasking problem… i linked up to some great posts, in my living in the moments post. focusing is certainly something i’m working on. xo . t

  • Myla
    Commented on July 29th, 2014 at 2:28am

    I am trying to get back into the habit of writing again, first thing in the morning. It’s hard to do with kids around but I do find a certain amount of clarity in my thoughts when I do write. It’s hard for me to really find someone to emulate right now. I just read the book “Steal Like An Artist” and it talked about finding someone to copy and model one’s self after. Still looking but haven’t found one.

  • Trina
    Commented on July 29th, 2014 at 7:42am

    one of my really good friends keeps telling me to read that book … thanks for the reminder. i’m not sure what steal like an artist says, but in finding many people i admire and would like to emulate i don’t think i could narrow it down. i love to find different practices, attributes, etc. from several people that inspire me and incorporate. although, i’m super interested to to read what steal like an artist has to stay about finding someone to copy.
    and….oh boy do i know how hard it is to write with little ones. i usually have to get a sitter and go to starbucks. i’ve been getting up earlier this summer, but sometimes they get up early and its really unpredictable. i’m going to try a few really early mornings (which is so not me) and see how that goes…because thoughts do seem to be better then. xo . t

  • Danielle
    Commented on July 29th, 2014 at 10:09am

    Wow, what a timely read for me. Thank you! I’m trudging through the first month of a new job in a new city and it’s turned any previous routine I had and habits I’ve made upside down. I’m eager to re-settle in and mindfully create rituals that’ll help me maintain this busy work schedule.

  • Trina
    Commented on July 30th, 2014 at 2:23pm

    so glad these words find you at the right time. a new job and a new city is a lot of change, for sure. hoping your are able to find and create new rituals at a good pace ; hope you are loving your new job and city! xo . t

  • lisa thomson-The Great Escape...
    Commented on July 30th, 2014 at 6:41pm

    What a great read, Trina. Thank you. I’m needing more discipline on my writing to complete unfinished projects. So, I have to do some rearranging pronto. No more blogging starting this week. Which will also mean less or maybe zero time on social media (that will be a hard one for me as it is so much fun). It’s been a huge distraction yet necessary to promote my blog and book. It’s a conundrum. Nice inspiration!

  • Trina
    Commented on August 4th, 2014 at 11:08am

    i am with you. i’m trying to get a good writing routine but thinking i may need to wait until my kids are back in school to really settle into a consistent routine. so, i’m trying to be patient with myself. how exciting – – a book! best of luck on the book and the social media break! you can do it! x o . t

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