“You are excactly where you need to be.”
I’ve seen this quote pin, pin, pinning over on pinterest. I’ve seen it typed up and tweeted on twitter, and I’m certain a friend has shared it on their Facebook page. I’m not even denying, I, surely, shared it myself.
But, I don’t know about this. Because what if you are not? What if you are not exactly where you need to be? It’s not something I’ve been pondering, picking away at, or loosing sleep over. It was just a pop in, passing, thought after a night of in-sufficient sleep. A passing thought that now wants to pick a place in my brain.
What if you are somewhere that you didn’t intend to go? I think that can be said of most of us. One day, during the dishes, the suds are building and bubbling, and you wonder how life got as sharp as the knife you just cleaned. Why the sweet isn’t sticking like the sugar you are trying to scrape off the saucer. The view out the window, while washing away, is hauntingly the same, or so foreign to the one you originally formed in your imagination.
Maybe you chose where you are because first choice was taken or taking too long. Sometimes it’s all the right choices, at the wrong time. Many times we make the best choices we can with what we have at the time: unseasoned knowledge, little experience, and hearts out beating our brains.
Sometimes where we are is where we directed ourselves with our life plans or lack of. But . . . what if where you are is where someone else dropped you off at? Someone else’s life spilled all over yours. Got in every crook and crevice.
You are exactly where you need to be. You are not “exactly” where you are supposed to be. You are where you chose to be. You are where someone influenced you to be. You are where someone else left you. You are off course. You are on course. You are where you are.
I’m moving on from “You are exactly where you need to be.”
Maybe it’s more like. . .
You are learning exactly what you need to learn.
Because if you are in hole, a dark place, a pit, a black space of nothing with everything swimming in your head….then you are not exactly where you are supposed to be. You are where you ended up or where someone pushed you, maybe right over the edge.
I once thought if I did “this” than “that.” If “that, than I did “this” wrong. If A + B then C. Always C. Then life lived all over me. In the crooks and every crevice. Everything was gray and it covered all my black and white. It certainly wasn’t where I wanted to be. But, it was where I was. I couldn’t see the light that I knew was there. Always there. In the dark, fumbling, sometimes fighting the light, I begin to learn things I would know no other way. Things like “The light shines in the darkness and the darkness can never extinguish it.” (John 1:5). That all things can work together for good (Romans 8:28). It happens like this……out of our greatest pain, can come our greatest purpose. I’ve seen it time and time again. Up close and personal. People on my path. Friends broken and bound, now beyond brave. They were where they never dreamed they would be and because of it they are, now, where they never dreamed they would be.
In a pit, that feels like a personal prison is where you just might find freedom. In a pit or on a path, if you are living life or life has lived all over you, you are learning exactly what you need to learn. You will learn forgiveness. You will learn to be brave. You will learn to speak up. You will learn to be quiet. You will learn to love others more deeply and yourself more wholly. You will learn that there is a way out. And a way forward. That you may not be exactly where you need to be, but that you can learn exactly what you need to be taught on the way to where you are going.
I’m clear we don’t always get the lesson, the plan or the purpose without the pit. But, I’m certain we aren’t supposed to stay in the pit. We can’t live in the gray or the black or the white. We have to live in the light. The light that we may fight at first is the light that, will fight for us and forge a way forward. We then put one foot in front of the other.
Let’s learn the lessons, lovelies…. it doesn’t just benefit ourselves it benefits many. There are others out there who will see a way out because of your very story. Your private pain may just help plenty out of their pit.
image via Kris Atomic
Commented on June 1st, 2015 at 11:19am
I love this! I think that’s how a lot of us come to understand that quote. You are exactly where you need to be for a reason… because there’s something you need to learn, something you’re meant to experience, something gain from every step of the journey.
Commented on June 3rd, 2015 at 2:36pm
There is always something to learn and to gain – even when it feels everything is taken from you……there is something to gain. XO .t
Commented on June 1st, 2015 at 2:42pm
Married at 24, had a son right after my 27th birthday, at 31 my husband was diagnosed with a terminal heart disease. Widowed and a single parent at 32. Widowed for 5 years then remarried, blended family, changed jobs, moved out of state.
Not what I had planned for my life. Not what I asked for, or what I expected. At 47 I am able to look back at my life and understand that Christ was there with me…every step of the journey. I have a much deeper understanding of what it means to be thankful,and to appreciate all that I have been blessed with.
Thank you for your post…..It made me think of Joseph in the Bible. His brothers were jealous of him, they threw him in a pit and later sold him into slavery. He was taken to a foreign land where he knew no one. After a long and difficult journey he became second in command over all of Egypt, under only Pharaoh himself. When reunited with his brothers he said, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” Genesis 50:20
God was with Joseph, just as He is with us. Always.
Commented on June 3rd, 2015 at 2:35pm
Wow, what a journey….thank you for sharing your personal story. Isn’t it amazing to look back – as you said- and see how God is with every single step. I’m loving Hillsong United’s new song called Closer Than You Know. The song undid me……Saying “closer than my skin and bones.” During traumatic times He really is the air we breathe. I love the story of Joseph. Haven’t read it for a long time….but that specific verse – wow…I’m writing that down…. What sometimes is meant to take us out – Will help many out – of their pit. BIG XO . t
Commented on June 6th, 2015 at 7:42pm
oh dear trina … how true … and when you are in the mire up to your eyes it is hard to see where it will end … i have had romans 8:28 up on my kitchen cabinet door for a couple years now … and on the door just opposite … acts 7 9&10 which was ‘given’ to me at a point i needed to know everything was going to be ok … and the patriarchs move with envy, sold joseph into egypt; but God was with him and delivered him out of all afflictions and gave him favor and wisdom in the sight of pharaoh, king of egypt; and he made him governor over egypt and all his house…
Commented on June 8th, 2015 at 9:01am
thank you for sharing, Dawn. Joseph. Josheph. Joseph. Of course, I know this story since I was a girl, but there must be something in it for me, right now. Because this is the 3rd time, it’s been mentioned to me this week. Even, last night while listening to a podcast. I’m going to be reading it this week and asking what exactly it is I need to see and know from this story I’ve known since forever. But, I’m certain there is something there, for here and for now. Thank you for sharing. xo . t