Not Again, This Year


Last year, I had a picture perfect family photo that never made it to the crisp white card-stock of a Christmas card.  I wondered if friends or family thought I might have cut them from my list.  I only cut myself loose from some of the holiday “have tos.”  And, a pretty picture on paper seemed to be one of the first things to go.  I like writing cards, sending letters.  The paper and pen process is a tradition for me.  I really didn’t want to let go of a ritual that helped to hold my holidays in place.  “There is always next year,” I told myself.

I am in next year and my inner chatter is gummy with guilt, muttering “Not again, this year.”  This year, I don’t have . . . .



a picture perfect family photo and I haven’t perused the inter-webs for an inspirational crisp white card.  What I do have is a few witty cards from Tayham.  Match that with a few relatives and friends that could use a laugh more then they could use a picture perfect picture of my family.  My sister would appreciate anything out of the mold.  My brother-in-law would laugh.  My mom will say, “Where is the nice picture of your family?”


So, I’m writing a few and learning to live in this looser life where I’m not tied to “have to” and “supposed to.”  I do what I can, as I can and I think I’ll make that my new tradition.  Yes, I will not tire myself in trying or striving, “Not again, this year.”

P.S.  I love the pretty photo cards.  I especially love to receive them.  Who knows,  maybe next year Christmas cards won’t feel like a “should” but more like a “could.”  A few years ago I kept it simple by just uploading a few insta favorites….it felt like a happy medium for me.  Who knows, I may even find myself, at Target next week, throwing a cute box of cards in my cart.  Next week might feel like a could.

Do you do Christmas cards?  How do you keep things from feeling obligatory during the holidays?



  • Melanie@Toots + Dill
    Commented on December 4th, 2015 at 2:31pm

    I need to take your personal advice to heart…I feel so overwhelmed with what I’m supposed to do these days. Learning how to say No is my hardest obstacle to overcome. BUT I really do think I need to send out Christmas cards this year! I love pretty ones too!! =)

    I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

  • Trina
    Commented on December 5th, 2015 at 12:04pm

    I have a hard time saying no – especially to my own personal expectations….but I’m learning. If you think you should send Christmas cards and want to then you should go for it. Maybe there is something else you’ll be able to let go of that will lighten load and help you not feel so overwhelmed! I hope you enjoy the holiday season! xo . trina

  • Cynthia
    Commented on December 12th, 2015 at 10:48am

    I’ve been doing Xmas cards all my adult life. The key to making it an enjoyable process is starting early. I’ve been making mine for the last decade or so and my starting point is Nov 1. I use that date to come up with a concept, design, and materials purchase. It’s amazing how the mind works b/c with a date in mind, I almost wake up with it all figured out. Then I spend the next month enjoying the creative process as well as thinking about each person receiving a card. I love designing a stamp via Zazzle or purchasing vintage postage via etsy. My 101 cards were posted last week after admiring them all finished for a week or two.

  • Trina
    Commented on December 12th, 2015 at 3:18pm

    Love this…. maybe that will get me back into the swing of things next year. I should put it in my calendar now. And, I’ve always wanted to do a customized stamp. Thanks for sharing your process. xo . t

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