Last year, I had a picture perfect family photo that never made it to the crisp white card-stock of a Christmas card. I wondered if friends or family thought I might have cut them from my list. I only cut myself loose from some of the holiday “have tos.” And, a pretty picture on paper seemed to be one of the first things to go. I like writing cards, sending letters. The paper and pen process is a tradition for me. I really didn’t want to let go of a ritual that helped to hold my holidays in place. “There is always next year,” I told myself.
I am in next year and my inner chatter is gummy with guilt, muttering “Not again, this year.” This year, I don’t have . . . .
a picture perfect family photo and I haven’t perused the inter-webs for an inspirational crisp white card. What I do have is a few witty cards from Tayham. Match that with a few relatives and friends that could use a laugh more then they could use a picture perfect picture of my family. My sister would appreciate anything out of the mold. My brother-in-law would laugh. My mom will say, “Where is the nice picture of your family?”
So, I’m writing a few and learning to live in this looser life where I’m not tied to “have to” and “supposed to.” I do what I can, as I can and I think I’ll make that my new tradition. Yes, I will not tire myself in trying or striving, “Not again, this year.”
P.S. I love the pretty photo cards. I especially love to receive them. Who knows, maybe next year Christmas cards won’t feel like a “should” but more like a “could.” A few years ago I kept it simple by just uploading a few insta favorites….it felt like a happy medium for me. Who knows, I may even find myself, at Target next week, throwing a cute box of cards in my cart. Next week might feel like a could.
Do you do Christmas cards? How do you keep things from feeling obligatory during the holidays?