The Ingredients of a New Year

Spilled Coffee

Most days I spill words, like I do my coffee, burning, aromatic, luke-warm, sometimes stale, straight into my white, hard covered, journal with my inky black pen.  I write what I feel and what I feel might overtake me, maybe already has, and mostly how hope wraps itself around me like my favorite blanket tucked tight like a burrito.  All year long, I pour out my thoughts like a kettle who’s water is screeching ready.  If I don’t pour . . . .



the whistle blows louder and louder until the thoughts evaporate.  Gone for good or back into my word pool of a brain.

I guess what I’m saying is that I’m self aware and not just in January.  So when January happened as it always does – so quickly after Christmas coma- I wasn’t to interested.  The invitations are everywhere these days.  Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest quotes coming right for you.  It’s like you can’t say no to the party, even if you wanted to.  I don’t want to turn down the invitation or eschew the first and the fresh.  I’m just finding myself fashionably late.  Can you relate?  

Today is my day.  It’s my first.  First day to sit and think and wonder and write out what the ingredients of a new year will be.  While I like the ritual, and I have my own formulas, I’m finding that every year looks different and I may not always stick to them like I would a trusted recipe.  Reflecting and resoluting recipes are more like cooking – add a dash of this or omit that – this time – rather then baking, where you must follow, precisely, or you won’t come up with the end result any time.

ingrediants to a new year

My resolutions are never really resolutions, they are more like goals and even more than goals they are lists.  I’ve found the right recipe for me is listing.  BE / DO / RANDOM are my roux.  Most times, I start with ingredients that are left over from last year.  When I reflect on the year before, I find what still needs to be softened in the stew.  And, things begin to simmer.

My lists can tend to be elaborate.  Because I’m a dreamer.   I’ve found that you can’t do it if you don’t dream it.  I’ve thrown some crazy things in the stew, like move to France for a year.  Hasn’t panned out yet, but traveling to England did.  And, that year crossing the ocean, for six days seemed just as impossible.

Don’t limit yourself.

coffee art

I know I won’t cross everything off my list (I never do at the grocery either – always forgetting something).  The beauty is I don’t know what I will end up crossing off the list (Like the year before when I ran a 1/2 marathon.  I’m not a runner and it wasn’t even on my list).

This year, I’ve gone pretty simple.  Because, life become a lot more simple for me the last few months.  Here are a few things making my list this year.  I plan to add to my list as the week goes on…..As I hear myself dream and ask God what dreams He has for me.


LOVING / I’m nothing without love.  I want those closest to me to know how loved they are by me.
+A better wife
+A better mom

FREE / For years I’ve put be brave on my list.  Knowing that I want to be less fearful and more brave.  This year I just want to be free of fear.  I’m so done with it.

STRONG / This is my year to be strong.  Body, mind and spirit.  Continue personal growth.  Yoga/flexibility.  Build muscle.



WRITE / Write everyday.  Online, in my journal, somewhere, anywhere.

DECLUTTER / Like for real.  I’ve been slowly working on this, but plan to take more of a plunge with the help of this book (which I’m picking up today).

HAVE FUN + LAUGH MORE / I know lame to have to list to have fun and laugh more, but sometimes we have to be intentional about these types of things.  My serious side needs to step a side and let my silly side have some space this year.


+ Improve memory
+Update mudroom
+Take kids to the beach
+Trip with the mister
+Start a book club
+Long bike ride
+Make decisions quickly
+Writing retreat

Do you make resolutions or goals?  What are some of your goals this year?  Link up in the comments if you shared them online.

P.S. I can’t wait to start my listing journal this week!


*Gorgeous images and art work by Giulia Bernardelli



  • Dawn
    Commented on January 5th, 2016 at 3:08pm

    I have been following your blog for quite a while now. As I was reading today’s post, I started wondering when exactly I started following you???Hmmm…..Maybe through Land of Nod? I can’t remember.
    I have many moments of “Uh huh”, “Exactly!”, and “She has some of the same thoughts I do!” for most of your posts.
    You and I have similar goals for this year. Isn’t it interesting that the older we get, the more we realize how important it is to have fun and laugh?
    An ongoing goal of mine is…. Continue to write down daily in my journal, all the things that I am thankful for. Eucharisteo in the every day.
    Wishing you and your family all the best in this new year, and may you continue to find the miracles, even in the mundane. :)

  • Trina
    Commented on January 6th, 2016 at 9:34am

    Awww….thanks for reading along and my heart couldn’t be happier to know that my words are just floating in the great out there, but that they are finding others who can relate on their own journeys. I’m learning to be grateful for things I used to get so annoyed by….like going to the grocery store. I mean I still have my ughhh… I don’t want to go moments, every time. But, I’m also catching myself, saying Thank you God, that I can go to the store….that I can buy food for my family…it’s changing my perspective…… Eucharisteo, indeed. Happy New Year to you and your family too!!! xo . t

  • Agnes
    Commented on January 6th, 2016 at 4:12pm

    Happy New Year Trina!
    Strangely, as I am a planner and a list maker I am not a resolution making type, I am more of a decision maker when I feel the time is right. One day I get up and know that what I have been pondering about for the last x-number of years or months needs to be taken care of. New place, new job, new lifestyle …

    Works for me:))


  • Trina
    Commented on January 7th, 2016 at 7:53am

    @Agnes, Love hearing about your process. I think when we find what works best for us, we find the best way to go about making change or adding good things to our lives. Happy New Year! xo . t

  • Myla
    Commented on January 8th, 2016 at 2:27pm

    I love what you said about writing. That is on my list, too. I feel that without writing, I am like a car running out of gas. Good luck with your goals this year!!!

  • Trina
    Commented on January 9th, 2016 at 11:13am

    I totally get that feeling. I feel not quite myself when I don’t write….xo . t

  • Kate
    Commented on January 12th, 2016 at 11:30pm

    I came across your blog through Instagram, and I love your style! What a great cheers to 2016 post. Your ‘Random’ section is awesome — especially the book club. I started an articles club (inspired by Joanna Goddard from A Cup of Jo) last year and it turned out to be the best thing.

    My main priority for 2016 is to transform my postpartum and often anxious body through fitness, clean eating and meditation. I already do yoga, but pregnancy forever changed my outlook on fitness and exercise, and I can’t wait to get into a solid, consistent routine.

    Happy New Year to you!

  • Trina
    Commented on January 13th, 2016 at 8:58am

    Thank you for reading and taking time to comment. I didn’t know about Joanna’s articles club. I’m going to have to look into that :) Pregnancy does change your body forever. But, it’s also so amazing to think what your body can do and I how it worked for you. I’m learning to be grateful for my body in a new kind of way….but like you this is a year where I want to really get strong and let go of anxiety not just in my mind but my body… Happy New year and good luck with your new fitness routine! xo. t

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