I’m not feeling so lovely friends.  I need to get a few things in order.  I’m thinking maybe if I write them out, and you know like publicly, than maybe I’ll actually do a little something about this.  It’s been almost 5 months now since Rocco Royal arrived and after having 2 babies back to back I need to get a little bit of me back.  Of course, I still have some weight to loose.  And to be perfectly honest, I pretty much want these last 10 pounds off like yesterday.  Mainly because, I want to wear my jeans and I want to buy new jeans and new clothes because I’ve been wearing pregnancy and in between clothes for over two years and it is time.

Now the thing about me is I am no dieter.  It just doesn’t happen.  Tell me I can’t have something and I want it with force.  So for me it is a game of cut backs and trade off’s.  I’ve just been a little too greedy lately.  Tired and greedy.  And here is where tired comes in, because it’s not just about weight.  It’s a lot about the whole picture.  You know, things like washing my face at night and slathering myself with potions and lotions so I don’t look completely haggard by age 35.  You with?  So here is my small list or maybe not so small list of little things that make me feel a little more sane and maybe I’ll just have to tackle one at a time.  Like one whole week of washing my face before bed.  Want to join me?  We can share routines and favorite products and so on. Yeah let’s start with that.

And here is my main list just for the sake of listing:

\wash my face before bed
\go to bed absolutely no later than 12:30 (iphone off)
\read before bed
\computer, iphone, ipad off 30 minutes before sleep
\walk 6 days a week
\yoga once a week
\weights 1-2x a week
\sit ups before bed \ leg lifts while blow drying my hair [yeah I’m weird like that] \more salads, greens, veggies
\drink more water
\Stop + take deep breaths throughout the day
\a little dark chocolate a day + save major treats for the weekend
\do more things for others

There is more but I don’t want to overwhelm myself.  Anyhow, I’m starting small . . .

My goal this week revolves around bed….. >wash face>computer off> read>bed.

Now you tell me… what is on your list?  Are you a bit crazy like me, leg exercises while blow drying your hair kind of stuff?

Speaking of washing your face  here and here is a little more on that.

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  • Sharilyn
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 11:40am

    Hello! I have been reading your blog for a few months now and love it! Love the style, colours, words- everything! This post spoke to me though- I also have had back to back babies- who are now back to back toddlers- let me tell you that is a whole other story! Anyways I totally know how you feel! I felt so drained after the first flush of second new baby wore off and winter in Vancouver set in, that I needed to force myself to be kind and carve out time for me. Yes that includes washing my face at the end of the night- try Kiehl’s Midnight Recovery- Ah-mazing! To kick those last 10lbs I switched to a smaller plate at dinner and filled half of it with greens- every night- well most nights! It seams to be working! I also walk/jog and swim alot- by myself- in the morning! Also something new I am trying to eat an apple a day- I just heard that the anitoxidents(?) in apple skin are fantastic for the skin! Good luck and dont be too hard on yourself:)

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 1:49pm

    Sharilyn – Thanks for reading and thanks for commenting. I love hearing from readers especially on subjects like this. I have to say I’m feeling the same way. Baby #4 (#3 is almost 2) is 5 months, winter is coming and I’m way worn down. I did the smaller plate thing after my first 2, along with walking and light weights and lost 20 pounds. I just had to make a conscience effort to sit down, enjoy my food and eat slowly. Right now I shove it in standing up and then always think I want more. ha! I was just looking at apples today and thinking I need to eat one a day too. They are also suppose to help weight loss as they are full of fiber. Check out Goop today. I will def have to try Midnight Recovery sounds like I need it. Thank you again for chiming in. Hope to hear from you again soon. Here’s to being kind to ourselves! xx

  • Mary
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 2:29pm

    What a great post. Every mother can relate, and I think it’s great to check in with ourselves from time to time. We all need to take care of ourselves, especially so we can do a great job of taking care of our little ones. One suggestion: facial wipes. I used to be horrible about washing my face every day, but facial wipes eliminate the need for rinsing and that seems to have made all the difference. I clean with a wipe, then follow with my night moisturizer/eye cream. Success! I also try to take 10 minutes after the boys go to sleep to sit and breathe. Silence. Something I never take for granted these days. And no, you’re not crazy. I think I’ve done those bathroom leg lifts since I was 15. ;-)

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:15pm

    Mary…my fellow leg lifter…Brilliant! I need to keep some facial wipes by the bed, I think, for the nights that I fail at the real thing. And I love the just sitting down and breathing for 10 minutes. I need to learn to take some breaks! Thanks for sharing the fab ideas!

  • Genni (fundamental fitness)
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 2:36pm

    Funny, your mom and I had a great conversation yesterday about supporting one another to loose our last 10 lbs. However, mine came from becoming an Editor/Mother/Wife/Trainer all together this year. So, as much as I inspire, teach, and promote the lifestyle everywhere, doing too much for others leaves even this exercise professional at the bottom of the list. One thing your mom and I came up with was doing the Dr. Furhman veggie/nutrient power shake at least once a day. Oooh and yes, watching portions. Especially being on the shorter end of the height scale. Gwyneth had a great post on how to keep your skin healthy and young as well, good stuff! :)

  • Noelle
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 2:39pm

    Sigh. I couldn’t agree more (regarding myself, of course.) It’s so tricky balancing a business, a marriage, and a social life that I so often develop bad habits strictly out of convenience/laziness. I decided it’s time to break the bad ones and make the good ones :) Shall we wish ourselves luck? Xo.

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:18pm

    Yes a double dose of good luck! xo

  • Genni (fundamental fitness)
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 2:39pm

    PS. Kiehls midnight recovery is AMAZING! My sister and I swear by it, and the best part is you notice it right away. You can get it at Woodfield, or order online. I love their products, and they let you try samples of some before you buy. The microderm abrasion is wonderful as well.

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:21pm

    Ok, it looks like we all need to try Kiehls Midnight Recovery :,default,pd.html?cm_mmc=LabeliumSearch-_-GoogleBrand-_-Kiehls+Face-_-kiehls%20midnight%20recovery&gclid=CK3x27PO1asCFVMBQAodVg8wQQ

  • Brandi {not your average ordinary}
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 2:48pm

    Lists always help my head and calm me down. And I think the one you made is fantastic. Honestly, I’ve been trying to lose the 10 “breakup” pounds I gained since January. I finally decided to stop dieting and start listening to my body. HUGE difference. Not sure if I’ve lost weight yet, but I feel so much better and less guilty all the time. The book that changed my mind about dieting was Geneen Roth’s Breaking Free from Emotional Eating. At least, I was an emotional eater so it really struck a chord with me. And I think it’s awesome you do leg lifts while blow drying your hair.

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:22pm

    That sounds like a game changer book. I am def an emotional eater, which is part of the problem right now. Lots of stress and I look to french fries. I’m going to have to put that book on my list! xo

  • Liz @ Shorely Chic
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 3:29pm

    I like this, it seems very do-able. I actually just posted on a very similar topic except mine was a pre-wedding regimen and included things like, take the dog for a walk more, do some sit ups, more fruits and veggies, less processed foods, start taking care of my skin, get 8 hours of sleep, etc… I have to say in two weeks – HUGE difference!

    here’s the post in case you feel like reading it :)

    Good luck, and enjoy your little ones :)

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:23pm

    LIz – love your list and I’m going to check out your post right now. Congrats on the upcoming wedding… that is such an exciting time in life! xo

  • Melissa
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 3:57pm

    Oh Hon ~ I get you. Giving ourselves time is a must…and it feels so much better when we have the energy to do it. Love the good tip of leg lifts while drying the hair!
    I know you can get yourself back in the groove you’re striving for ~ Go Trina Go!

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:24pm

    Thanks for cheering me on, Melissa! You are a sweet friend!!!!

  • sara
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 4:44pm

    minus a few details (namely number of kids and bedtime – this mama couldn’t stay awake ’til 12:30 for cash!) this list pretty much sums it up for me, too.

    there just aren’t enough hours in the day (original, i know) and after taking care of everyone and everything else, finding time to keep up on the little things for myself feels so overwhelming…

    i’m glad you wrote this out list-style. that’s always the first step for me…


  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:32pm

    I know I need more hours and more arms..that just might solve most it, maybe? xo

  • Melissa de la Fuente
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 5:23pm

    I totally hear you….sigh. Although I still have 30 pounds to go & my girls are 10 and 5! So, you got me beat. :) I think your plan sounds like a great plan and I totally support you. Here is my list: wash my face every night before bed( yep, I am lazy like that sometimes), go to bed before 1 ( ugh- put the book DOWN Melissa) So far I am doing well with the exercise and the water….now, to get the portion control. eating better thing better in hand. I will root you on from the sidelines. A nice product for bedtime is this one:
    ( maybe it will entice you to go through the washing motions) :)

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:37pm

    Great list! One thing at a time, right? You know when I lost the 20 pounds I wasn’t obsessive about it. I walked, cut back portions, did little trade offs and enjoyed life. I think because I was in a good place it was somewhat natural. I’m rooting for you too!!! Moral support always helps, right? And thanks for the tip on the face spray… I love face sprays!

  • Christina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 9:21pm

    I read your list and I knew a lot of them – it made me smile because I realized I know a lot about you : ) I have always loved that you do leg lifts while you blow dry your hair. I tried that once, but I fell over. No joke! Love you Trina. I think you are perfectly perfect. xo

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:31pm

    am laughing just picturing this! love ya!

  • Miz.November
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 9:49pm

    There are three main things that keep me put together. (or as put together as a girl can try to be) I have to have to have to work out. It doesn’t have to be boot camp or anything, but when I cease to work out I lose it. I can’t sleep. I quit eating right. I get sad. Whether it’s yoga or P90X, I have to fit in some physical activity for my sanity. Second thing is eating. I, luckily, love veggies and if I don’t get enough of them I start feeling like I have bricks tied to my limbs. My philosophy has always been “everything in moderation”. And that goes for EVERYTHING. Third thing is quiet time. I usually like to sit in the mornings and take some time for myself. Just to be alone with my mind. Sort of like meditation, I guess.

    Now. If I could only get more sleep. ;)

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:41pm

    Great list, Jo. I am so with you on all of them. I kinda feel like bricks tied to my limbs and I’m certain more veg would lighten the load. :) xo

  • Susannah
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 9:55pm

    Hello! Long time reader from Oz – and I am just love love loving the posts. It is my little treat during the day. You know, I’ve been reading lots lately about simplifying and calming down and that’s only with 2 littlies! Can I say that the things that has worked best for me (regardless of the subject matter) has been to be kinder and calmer with myself. I think lots of us use a bit of a scolding voice for ourselves when we don’t tick off the million and one things that we intended to stick to each day. Make yourself a star chart, set a reward for the end of the week and pick the simplest smallest things for the first week. A lot flows from going to be earlier – sorry, but 12.30 is NOT not not early – you must feel terribly fragile and tired. Get some kindness going – make yourself a cup of herbal tea with honey and sit up in bed drinking that and reading before you put the ligths out – if you’re up to a bub during the night then you need to be popping yourself under the covers by 9.00 – SERIOUSLY!!. Whatever else you have on your list for the day – it will still be there in a few weeks when you have some rest. You’ll actually feel like walking the next day if you don’t feel totally wiped. Pop a heat pack on your shoulders or back while you’re reading and before you know it you’ll be snoozing….. Just do the going to bed thing with your face washed and get the water drinking thing happening for the first 2 weeks. Think of a lovely reward for the end of the first week and take some time out to enjoy it. In 2 weeks’ time you can add on the walks – give yourself a star for 15 minutes of fast walking and commit to 5 or 6 days. Make that the only thing for the next 2 weeks. Sent with care and kind wishes from the other side of the world :-)

  • Trina
    Commented on October 6th, 2011 at 10:46pm

    Susannah – you are such a dear. I can tell you are such a kind soul. Thank you for all of the wonderful suggestions. Should I even admit to you that 12:30 is on the early end for me. I know, terrible. I just find that the night time is the only me time I have and I get a little greedy. But I’m def going to work on it. Love the idea of the heat pack while reading! xo

  • Kimberley
    Commented on October 7th, 2011 at 2:36am

    I would be bleeding from the eyeballs if I stayed up past midnight every night – but you do have youth on your side! I’m staring at 41 later this year, with my youngest child 5 and oldest 19, so, am feeling it a bit;) The changes I have implemented lately which have made a difference to my overall health and wellbeing, and made my skin look smoother and brighter, are a max of two coffees in the morn, then green tea throughout the day, upping the antioxidant-rich fruits (apples, blueberries, dried tart cherries), and having more protein throughout the day (hard-boiled eggs, nuts, little tins of salmon, etc). You look great though, and 10 pounds is not much, especially if you convert it to kilos, heh (I’m from metric New Zealand). x

  • belinda
    Commented on October 7th, 2011 at 8:00am

    Oooh wouldnt it be heaven to be in bed at 9am?!? Sadly i usually havent even eaten dinner by then! I find i am most productive just before midnight – its the obly time i get to be by myself and usually i just work or blog. I was also feeling drab and felt i was looking crap with all that was going on in my life so i started to cut down on what i was doing as best as i could and started a bit of a beauty regime – at least there was sometbing before bed that didnt involve a computer or child! I was face with qv wash or cetaphil and a face washer as it kind of exfoliates. Then i massage in rosehip oil then finish with massaging in QV cream – i can stand there for ages daydreaming as i massage! And then dermalogica eye/lip cream. Cn i say how much of a huge difference that has made? Skin instantly feels and looks better fromrosehip oil and i feel more relaxed rather than just jumping in bed after shutting he macbook which is what i did do! I still have no time to read or do anything else in my evenings/nights but i make something i have to do a little more luxurious. And that is about it for me! I dont even think about diets and cannot imagine squeezing in exercise anywhere and i have one child less than you! :) so my tip: rosehip oil! hope youre all well xxx

  • Trina
    Commented on October 11th, 2011 at 10:43am

    Me too…love to work before midnight… my perfect schedule would be stay up till 1:30ish and sleep till 9am!
    Oh, that rosehip oil sounds like just what I need… I’m off to look today! xx

  • Lisa
    Commented on October 7th, 2011 at 8:36am

    Hey sweet girl. You are in a tough time! I know it seems like there is much to do NOW, but it is a season. I’m afraid that if I made a list like yours it would be a mile long. Ugh. I have to say I do the face wipes – I just went to Target and got Oil of Olay and Neutrogena. I’ve loved them both and they work for me.. I just have to remember to get the pre-moistened ones or I end up not using them. I hate, hate, hate working out but I do enjoy yoga. I’m doing that Shiva Rea prenatal one now and it’s great b/c it has the breathing/rest time at the end (most do, prenatal or not). Totally relaxes me, so it’s great to do before bed and I also get some exercise in. Not sure if that would even work for your schedule, but it’s helpful for me. You can do this. Especially if you treat yourself to just a little dark chocolate every day! P.S. I totally busted up when I read about your leg lift routine. I had no idea, but I can picture it.

  • Trina
    Commented on October 10th, 2011 at 3:37pm

    Lisa!!!!! You are so right it is a season, isn’t it. Love the face wipes idea. I need to put that on my Target list for sure. I know my fav thing about yoga is the relaxation time at the end! I need more of that deep breathing! And I’m glad I gave you a laugh with my leg lift hair drying routine! xoxo

  • Kelly
    Commented on October 7th, 2011 at 2:08pm

    1 – sweat every day.

    2 – wear concealer.

    Those two things are key for me. Sure I try to eat more veggies, sleep enough, etc. But those are my deal breakers.

  • Trina
    Commented on October 10th, 2011 at 3:32pm

    Kelly – those are great. These past 2 years I have found a new dependency on my concealer. Can’t go a day without myÉclat/141YSL,default,pd.html! xo Trina

  • Trina
    Commented on October 10th, 2011 at 3:35pm

    I know… my eyeballs feel like they have been bleeding lately! Green tea is great. I totally need to drink more of that along with the fruit and veg. Lucikly I love tea so that shouldn’t be too hard to do. Thank you for your kind words. You’re not that much older……and by the way I like the idea of converting my eight to kilos! :)

    xo Trina

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